Family Education and Support
Understanding that dementia is a disease of relationships is essential to providing phenomenal care. As with many illnesses and diseases, when people find out someone they know has been diagnosed with dementia they often offer help and support. However, most people when diagnosed are still very capable of caring for themselves. As the disease progresses, the family care partner takes on an increasing number of tasks, not acknowledging or realizing how much they are doing. The need for the caregiver to do more and more and the decreased abilities of the person diagnosed starts to isolate the care partner and person diagnosed alike. The support systems of family and friends, social groups, exercise regiments, and religious organizations fall away. Often family care partners eventually feel the need for respite but are embarrassed by the behavior of the person diagnosed. They may not trust that a paid caregiver will be able to care for their loved one as well, or they have lost so much of their personal identity they don’t know what to do with the free time. In fact, many do not seek or accept help until there is a catastrophic event.
Care partners need reassurance that any challenging behaviors are not uncommon for a person with dementia and paid providers understand this is the disease, not the person.
It’s an opportunity to educate families on interpreting behaviors as communication and changing communication styles so interactions are more positive and challenging behaviors are minimized. Instruction regarding modifying daily routines and activities so the person diagnosed can continue to be successfully involved can help support the care partner emotionally as they see decline. Care partners need to be encouraged to have regular time away meeting with friends, attending a support group, exercising, or doing something that fulfills them. As you have been given the highest level of trust by being allowed to enter their home, your modeled behavior and guidance can teach positive relationships with this changed person.
To do this requires the paid caregiver be extensively trained in dementia. They are the eyes and ears in the home and the example for the family. Caring for a person with dementia is vastly different than other types of care. Since dementia effects the person’s ability to communicate, make decisions, problem solve, and care for one’s self, the caregiver must notice deficits and initiate activity. Whereas other clients are able to guide the course of their care, the person with dementia needs someone capable of guiding the care while at the same time allowing as much independence as possible. This is a fine line that constantly changes; too much help and the person feels demeaned, too little help and they feel incapable. The caregiver should be skilled at noticing emotional and behavioral changes, validating the client, and redirecting the behavior. The caregiver must live in the client’s world and be able to think quickly and guide the client to meeting their care needs in a manner that is not confrontational. During the course of the daily routine, the caregiver is responsible for maintaining client involvement, initiating activities to keeping the body and mind active, and ensuring the client feels their life still has purpose. These are skills that require both a comprehensive training program and ongoing client-specific coaching.